13 Habits of People With Concealed Depression

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There can be a multitude of reasons people battling depression may wish to keep it hidden, most prominently:

  • Fear of ridicule or stigmatization
  • Fear of sharing their innermost thoughts and feelings/trust
  • Feeling that no one else can understand (or wants to try)
  • Thinking they are beyond help.

Depression is a mental state in which someone feels unmotivated, irritable, sad, disinterested, discouraged, and/or hopeless for an extended period, to where these feelings interfere with routine daily function.

Some may have thoughts of suicide. If we know what to look for, we may see behind the facade to help someone in need.

Loss of Interest in Favorite Activities

Depressed people can distance themselves from the things they most love. They may suddenly discontinue activities that used to bring them joy.

Change of Eating Habits

Some people overeat when they’re under a great amount of stress while the opposite is true for others. A noticeable change in eating habits is an obvious sign that something is wrong. Further, someone who used to enjoy a social meal with others and now prefers to eat alone is showing signs of isolation—a red flag for depression.

Abnormal Sleeping Habits

Like eating habits, sudden and persistent change in sleep habits can be a sign of depression. Whether it’s an escape of excessive sleeping at one extreme or the inability to sleep at the other, sleep is an activity that a depressed person can control when s/he may feel out of control.

Knowledge of Mind-Altering Substances

Someone who is trying to hide something acutely knows of anything taken into the body that can cause loss of control. Caffeine, sugar, alcohol, recreational and pharmaceutical drugs and their interactions can all affect mood and behaviour, causing difficulties. The depressed person knows this and will be very careful with these and similar substances.

Being Affable and Expressive

While some people become quiet and withdrawn if depressed, some who hides it can be especially outgoing and boisterous. They may express themselves outwardly through music, writing, comedy, and other forms of art. Self-deprecating humour is often a sign of depression. Depressed people understand more fully the dark and light sides of their inner selves and let out only what they want others to see.

Being a Perfectionist Who Seeks Love and Attention

Fear of being discovered or losing love and respect can lead people hiding depression to become almost obsessed with appearing perfect.

They know very well their own talents and faults but want others only to see successes while hiding failings. They may fear that if others see their imperfections, the care they so need will be withheld or withdrawn.

Having Abandonment Issues

“People who conceal their depression often take extra care to appear all right or even over-the-top upbeat. They stick to the positive parts of their public persona and hide what’s going on inside.

This secrecy can be caused in part by extreme fears of abandonment. People experiencing depression may be afraid of rejection if they confess their true feelings. This can lead to ‘cover-ups’ so that friends will not notice signs of pain.”

Cover-ups and Alibis

Hiding true emotion means you have to lie. Plausible excuses and alibis are ever at-the-ready for someone who wants to avoid particular situations.

If someone is constantly coming up with reasons can’t do or take part in something/he used to, avoids certain people or social circumstances or becomes overly secretive, it can be a sign of inner struggle.

Obsessive Habits

Everyone develops her/his own ways of coping with stress and anxiety. We all have habits, both good and bad. A depressed person relies on them. Whether it’s something seemingly healthy such as exercise or other routines like long drives, walks, cleaning, or smoking, if the routine is disrupted, a depressed person may become unreasonably upset. Habits offer a feeling of comfort and control; the loss of control—even if a minor thing—can devastate for a depressed person.

Outward Positivity and Denial

Posts on social media that reflect the fun and going out of one’s way to say how great everything is can reflect the denial of a sad truth.

“So, why would anyone deny depression? There may be several reasons, the most obvious of which relate to work, self-esteem and self-image. Denying that your emotional state isn’t all it might be is a good way of pressing ahead.

You may not be firing on all cylinders, but you’re hoping it’s just a virus or a bit of pressure that will pass. This is common. It’s the psychological equivalent of running a car on reserve fuel and hoping it won’t shudder to a halt.

Denying depression is caught up with all sorts of things. Men stand as a good example because depression doesn’t fit with their sense of self. They may view depression as something that affects women, or they may struggle with admitting their symptoms to themselves…On the one hand, people with symptoms of depression are less objective about their own situation than they may be in assessing others.

Equally, denial of depression is a major hurdle in seeking treatment. Denial is a powerful mechanism and one that, if confronted, can lead to angry and upsetting scenes,” explains Health Central.

Deepened Awareness of Life and Death

Having gone through an extensive consideration of life and perhaps ideation of death, a depressed person keenly knows of both. It may come in a purely personal form or in the larger view of society or the universe. The meanings of mortality, life, and death can be subjects for which the depressed person has strong opinions and perceptions.

Experiencing an Existential Crisis

The search for life’s meaning for a depressed person can cause frequent changes: switching jobs, homes, cars, areas of study, relationships, and other major life decisions can show the constant quest to find what’s “right” with a constant feeling that something(s) is wrong.

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